Today's blog will discuss my personal opinion in what men look for when seeking women. The things listed are my own personal belief and I will compare my list to what research actually says men look for.
1. She does things to show that she cares. This means little gestures such as gifts, compliments, support when he feels down, running errands, and simply talking to him about his feelings and needs. Giving gifts shows appreciation for the person and making gifts really shows that she is in to him. Complimenting a man shows that a women is impressed with him and it makes him feel secure. Talking about one's feelings and needs is an important aspect in a relationship. The point of being in a relationship is not just to be with someone, but to care for someone. If people only wanted to see someone it wouldn't be a relationship it would be just dating. It is important to support someone when they are going through tough times to show that one cares for the person they are with and it isn't just about dating. Running errands can suggest that the person is worth doing work for. People just don't run errands for anyone unless they get something in return.
2. She has a life of her own. This means that he doesn't always have to spend every waking moment with her and that she can take care of her own personal tasks and find time to spend with her family and friends. spending too much time together and not apart can be a bad thing and lead to dependency. It is nice to know that she doesn't have to be taken care of and he has nothing to worry about. Her whole life should not be her boyfriend. She should be able to have time to herself and that also leads time for him to be alone. In other words she is not waiting for a man so she can get her real life started.
3. She is honest and doesn't lie. Many couples have an issue with trust. Men might feel overly insecure if she is always lying to them and that can lead to stalking. He might feel the need to check up on her to see if she could be trusted. Lying always leads to violence as well. It's important to be with someone who can tell the truth and be honest no matter how difficult that may be. A healthy relationships is one that is honest and open without any secrets. That doesn't neccessarily mean that he wants to know everything, but you shouldn't have to hide anything from him because that only makes it seem like a woman is uncomfortable with him.
4. She is decent. This means that she can be attractive, but not too promiscuous. Dressing in tight, revealing clothes may make some men feel uneasy about bringing their girl friends near their guy friends. No guy wants his girlfriend checkout by other men.
5. She cooks. A lot of men do not cook and food is an important thing in their life. Some men get really angry when they do not eat, as ridiculous as it sounds. They have this idea that food in their belly makes them happy. Food may make a women happy, but we certainly won't be as grumpy if we do not get to eat at the moment. Men are different, they will not budge, talk, or be in a good mood until they eat. I don't know why. Maybe this trait never went away from the old cave men days. (haha).
6. She doesn't take crap from anyone. This means that she can stand up for herself when she is treated wrongly. A women who doesn't take any crap from anyone shows that she doesn't need her man to interfere in the drama. Men always hate the drama that women entangle themselves in and so it's important to be able to handle it without involving him. Women who also stand up for themselves show that they respect themselves. People who respect themselves are always respected by others. This also means that when he is doing something wrong she puts her foot down and doesn't let him do anything he wants if anything means cheating, lieing, and flirting with other women. Men like to be shown who's boss sometimes and that makes them feel better when they also call a woman out on things she shouldn't be doing.
7. She shares her feelings and communicates effectively. This should be something that comes natural to women, but sometimes I find myself struggling with it. Men need to be told what is wrong because they can never understand our hints. It's important to just be direct with them and let them know their faults because if a women doesn't do that she is more prone to express it angrily when it builds up and it becomes too late. That means expressing everything that bothers a women, no matter how little it may be. Sometimes when we think in our head it gives a little face expression that can be offensive. Sometimes men will reply, " what is that remark on your face about." If she replies, " nothing" he may feel that bad because she doesn't feel the need to share it with him or that something he is doing is making her feel bad and it feels worse when he can't get her to tell him what it is. This then makes him feel like she shouldn't be with him because she can't even share her feelings with him.
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